1. Reward children. Give praise and recognition and celebrate a job well done.
Emphasize good things they do.

2. Take their emotions, feelings and ideas seriously.

3. Define limits and rules clearly, and enforce them. Allow leeway for children within these limits.

4. Be a good role model. Let children know you can feel good about yourself. Also let them see you can make mistakes and learn from them.

5. Teach children how to deal with time and money. Help them learn how to spend time wisely and budget their money.

6. Have reasonable expectations. Help them set attainable goals so they can achieve success.

7. Help children appreciate diversity. Teach them to recognize and accept those with various backgrounds, values and norms. Point out other people’s strengths.

8. Give children responsibility. They will feel useful and valued.

9. Be available and give support when they need it.

10. Show them that what they do is important to you. Talk with them about their activities and interests.

11. Express your values.

12. Spend time together. Share favorite activities.

13. Discuss problems without placing blame. If children feel there is a problem but do not feel attacked, they are more likely to help look for a solution.

14. Use phrases that build self esteem, such as, "Thank you very much," or, "You did an excellent job."

15. Show how much you care about them as individuals.